Dating advice for men over 50
An insight
This week we delve into the murky field of dating preferences on online apps. No longer is it simply enough to say, I want to sign up here to get off by meeting somebody.
We have many conversations with women aghast at the rise in over fifty’s potential suitors who state they choose Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM). The most common comments I hear ask a very similar question, “do you actually understand what that means and do you have time to invest in this lifestyle?”
Most if the women I hear from struggling to find a semblance of a relationship are pretty time poor, and juggling other important aspects of their life. They don’t have the time or bandwidth to juggle more than one partner at a time. They are telling me that they don’t know how men will be able to do this either.
They make a valid point that it is pretty difficult, like finding a bees dick in a haystack levels of difficult to find anybody on the many apps, let alone more than one.
Women have confided that they would find a man much sexier and more desirable if they used their time to develop new hobbies, work on their finances or sort out their relationship status with their ex-partners once and for all.It sickens them when they think about a man over fifty being intimate with more than one woman at a time.
One particular reader made a very valid point, and it is worth sharing because I don’t think they are alone here?
Isn’t a bit of an affront if men can get an abundance of Viagra to maintain the non-monogamy bit, when many of us women have suffered through a never ending global shortage of HRT?
She’s got a point!
Our women readers have as many concerns with ENM as they do with the other preference going around, that it “still figuring it out”.
They need to know when exactly you’ll figure it out if you are already over fifty and haven’t. After all, beyond fifty many of us don’t know how long we have, and there might not be enough time to figure “it” out before leaving the dating pool forever, and not in the way you hoped.
I’ll defer their protestations about “short term fun” and “kink” – it’s going to need a whole column for that one … unless you do actually know you are on borrowed time and short term fun is all you will have time for.
